January 29, 2011 at 6:00 pm in INFORUM
Would be second of its kind in Minnesota
As the one crime where victims always know their attackers and often share lives, domestic violence can pose unique issues. Continue Reading
Tags: Clay County, courts, Crime, domestic violence, Moorhead 6 Comments »
Here’s a thought. Post photos of the perpetrators on the Internet. These gutless cowards like to think that they can control, intimidate and hurt their spouses and girlfriends through fear and the empty “I’ll never do it again pleas”.
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All restraining orders need to be dual orders. What this means is that when a protection or restraining order is filed by a victim, the victim should also be prohibited from contacting the person they filed against. Over and over again the victim changes their mind, allows the defendant back into their lives and in two weeks when things get back again the victim calls the cops and gets the defendant arrested. Although it is the defendants responsiblility to abide by the order when the victim initiates the contact they should be held accountable for their actions too.
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As one who has for 20 years worked daily with victims and perpetrators of domestic violence, I understand the frustration of the poster who advocates for the “dual” protection order that goes both ways. Oftentimes the reality is that the offender has enough control, leverage or power that they often intimidate or exploit the very weakness they create to get back in. To penalize the victims would in my view let the abuser off the hook. Remember that before any type of protective/no contact order is issued, it is after a judge has determined that either abuse has been committed or threatened. Even if on occasion a victim “allows” an offender back in contrary to an order, the offender has been informed of the order in no uncertain terms by a court and likely a peace officer as well. In summary, I feel that we need to in all cases give the benefit of the doubt to the victims.
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A sad irony is that this article appears below the Minot murder article which underscores how lethal domestic violence can be.
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By issuing a dual order does not allow the abuser off the hook and it does not penalize the victim. It is just another way to keep people away from each other that should be kept away from in each other on both sides. Don’t tell me that on ‘occasion’ a victim may allow an offender back into their life. It happens all the time! I see it in my line of work every single day.
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Blaming the victim for the abusers refusal to follow the order is not the solution.
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